Celebrating HER

One December 07 morning–gosh!, does she love fashion!!!–she will always dress up–from her long necklaces to her chucky earrings like she has a place to go, but instead she will just sit on her bed and reread her stock folders. 🙂The last presence with her–hours before my flight–Jan, 08.Its been 10months since she left, but it still feels like yesterday. It is hard to look at her pictures sometimes; but when I look at these pictures, it just reminds me of the last fun days with her. The pictures were taken last December 2007 and early January 2008.One of the most difficult day was getting the call on one morning in late Feburary from Nigeria that she has passed away. I still couldn’t believe it because I couldn’t believe this person I love and just spoke to couple days ago is no longer with us. I remember talking to her two days before she passed, she sensed I was tearing up and she pleaded that I should stop crying and that everything is in control. She continued by saying, “God is in control, keep doing the good things that you have always done”. At the end of the conversation, I remember telling her, “I love you” about twice because the phone signal wasn’t that clear, and she responded despite the effect of the medication she had and how sleepy she was, she whispered back, “you know I love you”. This last words just forever rings in my ears when I think about her.I am not going to lie, I still can’t write or talk about her without a box of kleenex beside me. Even the thought of visiting Nigeria this Decemember knowing that the main person I go there to see, will not be there or the fact of coming across some of the items she wanted me to get for her this xmas, but I can’t get it anymore, its a bit sad.Well, there is not much I can do but celebrate her. She has been such great inspiration to me. I remember as a little kid, I will write letters to her; but when I come to visit her, she will sit beside me and help correct my punctuation or spellings. She was a woman that stood for eduation. She was so proud when I set her pictures of my graduation last year. :)Today this beautiful lady, my lovely grandma, would have been 89 years old today, so I am celebration this phenomenal woman–Mrs. Susanna Dillibe.HAPPY BIRTHDAY MAMA!! :)RIPxoxo



    November 26, 2008 / 2:48 am

    awww. i’ve learned people really need to appreciate the ones they love while they can. your post re-reminds me to do that! thanks!

  2. Lisa
    November 26, 2008 / 4:30 am

    so beautiful x.memories are what keeps us going.keep on shining.thanks for sharing.x.

  3. erika
    November 26, 2008 / 5:32 am

    what a beautiful grandma you have. so stylish and very happy still :)i too have a grandma and am always very scared to get a call like that soon but i dont want to think about it yet.cheers to your grandma.<3erika

  4. nv
    November 26, 2008 / 8:13 am

    happy birthday to her, she was very well dressed and an inspiration to many that when you’ve got style it’s eternal! she’s probably one of the most fashion people up there in heaven 🙂

    November 26, 2008 / 12:55 pm

    Stella darling Big Hug!!! what a touching post,my sweet May your beautiful Granny’s soul rest in perfect peace.It is beautiful that youyr celebrating her life and all that she meant to you.My Grandma died in early oct this year soI know the pain you feel.May God comfort you and your family at the mark of her birthday. Time heals all wounds.stay strong dear,Marian.

  6. Laura*
    November 26, 2008 / 1:20 pm

    Your grandmother was beautiful and she had a lot of style!. Kisses

  7. closetcolumnist
    November 26, 2008 / 2:45 pm

    Don’t you love grandmothers?? I miss my grand and greatgrandmothers all of the time. May your grandma be eternally blessed and at peace. ps- Have a safe trip to Nigeria!!

  8. budget chic
    November 26, 2008 / 3:52 pm

    Sweetheart I understand everything you are going through. I lost my mother in April and my son (who is 18) lost his grandmother as you did your. It has been very hard for me and not a day goes by that I don’t shed tears over the lost of my mother. My son misses her dearly. She was a beautiful and special person just like your grandmother. But your grandmother was right “God is in Control” and I know my mother felt the same way too before she left this earth, because she knew she was leaving. The memories now are so precious and we just got to keep those alive. We are still in the grieving process, so you got to let it out. They are resting now and you as well as my son have the honor of keeping your family name and memories of those you loved alive! It is being handed over to the next generation – YOU – so be strong for your family and the legacy Mrs. Susanna Dillibe left behind!

  9. J'Adore Fashion
    November 26, 2008 / 5:00 pm

    @charmain: thanks dear, so agree, we sometimes not remember or value as much as your families. thanks that i inspired you.@ lisa: thanks beautiful :)@erika:thanks sweety, your grandma will be there for you, remember to always cherish loved ones,@nv: thanks dear,lol at yeah she will probably be wearing her chic clothes, stay all so fab :)@the house of style: thanks so much love, really appreciate it. sorry to hear about your granny, hope your doing going, they both will be all fashionista in heaven ;-)@laura:thanks thanks dear!!@closetcolumnist: thanks a lot, we all LOVE grandma. i appreciate your comment!!!@budget chic: THANKS THANKS alot, omg, your comment just got tears in my eyes–i feel so loved…may all those we love rest in peace. May your mom rest in peace. don’t we love loved ones :)thanks so much sweety, really appreciate your love. xoxo

  10. Jen (MahaloFashion)
    November 26, 2008 / 5:21 pm

    what a beautifulwell dressand elegant womanrip

  11. The Seeker
    November 26, 2008 / 6:12 pm

    My dear, I can imagine how you feel, I lost my dad 5 years ago and I still miss his presence.What a beautiful tribute you’ve done to your grandmother, so sweet.And what a gorgeous lady even in her last days.May God confort you and all your family and remember that she must be in peace and taking care of you as an angel.Love dearxoxoIt’s also my mother’s Bday 😉

  12. J'Adore Fashion
    November 26, 2008 / 8:14 pm

    @jen: thanks a lot dear!!@the seeker: thanks for such beautiful and sweet write up, its always hard forgettig love one who have passed. THANKS a lot, really appreciate your kindness and love.HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU MOM!!!xoxostella

  13. SOS!
    November 26, 2008 / 8:28 pm

    that is so lovely and sweet. losing people close to you is so hard. i have a dress and some accessories that my mom used to wear that i always wear in her honour. and i like to think they live on through us..peace out,SOS-er fi xx

  14. Dana (MODAna)
    November 26, 2008 / 9:13 pm

    what a beautiful postand happy birthday to her in deed

  15. ryder
    November 26, 2008 / 10:17 pm

    oh no… im so sorry, this post is so sad… she seemed so vivid and looked great and very styleed. im so sorry…

  16. J'Adore Fashion
    November 26, 2008 / 10:59 pm

    @SOS: YEAH, Pretty hard losing loved one, remember fun times with them is great, thanks for the sweet word. must be nice having a piece of your mom.@Dana: thanks dear!!!@ryder: really appreciate it, thanks a lot!!xoxo

  17. eva
    November 27, 2008 / 10:29 am

    what an awesome and beautiful grandma you had! happy birthday to her!

  18. ♥ Marta ♥
    November 27, 2008 / 1:47 pm

    SO beautiful 🙂

  19. Couture Carrie
    November 27, 2008 / 3:38 pm

    What a lovely tribute! Happy bday to Mama and happy turkey day to you!!xoxox,CC

  20. Susanna-Cole
    November 27, 2008 / 7:34 pm

    Awww dear I'm so sorry about the loss of your grandmother. 🙁 She looks and sounds like she was an amazing person (with amazing style too :D), but I think it's beautiful that you're remembering her on your blog like this! <3xoxo,S-C

  21. J'Adore Fashion
    November 27, 2008 / 9:46 pm

    @eva: thanks Evam your too sweet :)@Marta: thanks!!@CC:thanks dear, have a save and wonderful thanksgiving too!!!@SC: thank hun, you always come with such sweety and warm comment. have a happy holiday!!!xoxo

  22. Vintage Me New You
    November 28, 2008 / 12:43 am

    your story was so beautiful and sensitive,i love it:)you are very preety and i liked your blog!be happy!

  23. Bella
    November 29, 2008 / 9:00 pm

    She’s just so lovely… Such an inspiration reading this post, because honestly, my grandmother passed away two weeks ago… we were very close. Goodbye is never easy, there are never the right words to say, never enough time… but when the ones we love leave us, I think it’s what we hold onto that keep their memories alive.xxx

  24. www.gladitsnight.com
    December 7, 2008 / 6:00 am

    your granny is sharp

Stella Adewunmi